Bright Colors and Shiny Objects

I have a (male) friend who was proud to announce that he had figured girls out and had constructed his own “Girl Theory.” He told me that girls were easy to understand as long as you realized that they were attracted to bright colors, shiny objects and miniature things. Of course, he meant to say that girls were simple and easily distracted by the aforementioned items, often seen in the forms of jewelry, clothing, and small animals.  I will admit that I am attracted to bright colors and shiny objects, but I am absolutely certain that is not the essence of what makes me a girl. My egotistic and disillusioned friend missed quite a bit in his theory. Here are some of my personal additions to the “Girl Theory” or what makes a girl:

1.       Girls are expressive. Whether they express themselves through speaking their emotions or painting a picture (maybe even with bright colors), they like to put themselves out there and show the world who they really are.

2.       Girls like to talk. Even if they are shy, every girl enjoys good, open conversation. Stemming from our need for expression, there is a need for companionship, someone to express to. We enjoy talking to one another because we have a genuine interest in other people (historically and evolutionarily, women are nurturers) and enjoy learning about how people operate. Sometimes, our need to understand people and converse about this understanding can result in judgment and gossip, but, for the most part, our talking results in a greater comprehension of the people and environment around us.

3.       Girls see the world in “bright and shiny” colors. I’ll admit, we like a little color in our lives. Even someone as wary of change as I am can admit that girls love the excitement of new and interesting things. We see the intensity of the array of colors and diversity in the world. Our brains are constantly filled with new ideas and perspectives.

4.       Girls are lovers, and have a need for resolution. I have found that guys enjoy leaving things the way they are (the old stereotype that men won’t ask for directions may stem from the fact that they just don’t want to stray from their own, settled path). Women, on the other hand, want the perfect ending (just consider how perfectly chick flicks tend to resolve and how broken hearted we are when they don’t). We don’t like harboring our negative feelings and we have a need to get it all out and resolve problems, even if the resolution is akin to a tornado-stricken town. We are naturally lovers and want to please others (just picture the perfect 1950’s mother serving her family. It’s not all a façade), but we realize that not everything can be perfect. Due to this, we try to finish things the best way we can, though it’s not always perfect.

These are just some thoughts and observations I have had, but, basically, the most important thing is that girls are far from simple. In fact, our love of bright and shiny, new things make us curious, open and understanding. Don’t get me wrong. I realize not all women follow this criterion (no set of criteria is comprehensive), but I do feel that these are pretty consistent patterns.

So, to my narrow-minded friend, you’re right. I LOVE bright colors, shiny objects and miniature things, but there is SO much more to me!

Here is one form of expression for me. I love making jewelry (yes, with bright colors and shiny objects). Making jewelry is away for me to show my true colors.